I have been reading my wife's blog and thinking her thoughts and feeling her feelings. And it occurred to me that my creativity is woefully under-expressed, in fact that most of who I am and what I am is under-expressed and that that is not a good thing. So I am making an effort to express more of my thoughts and feelings in the moment before I lose them in the malaise of my work day.
My thought is that our life is like a tree. The branches are our progeny and the roots our ancestry, but the trunk of the tree is us. What is beautiful and significant to me it that we started out as separate people, but the longer we are married, in love, friends, parents, and so many other things, the more we are growing together. An excellent blending of two into a unique and wonderful one. Our true identity, more and more, is not you and me but us.
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Best vs. Potential
We (speaking on the large collective scale) often denigrate ourselves in the moment because we do not accomplish everything we hope to do, in the way we planned, to the standard we desired. We wonder "Did I do my best?" "What is my best?" I realized the other day that what we are holding ourselves up against is not truly our best in that moment but rather we are comparing our efforts in the moment to our eternal potential, and inevitably as we do this we are discouraged.
The solution is simple: keep things in perspective. As we all know simple does not equal easy but this really is the answer. When we ask ourselves "Did I live up to my full potential today?" the answer will most likely and persistently be no. But if we ask "Did I do my best to live up to my potential today?" hopefully the answer is yes more often than not. The key is the focus of the question. The first question has a very board focus and the second a very narrow focus. If we follow the principle of line upon line learning and growing we will not ask ourselves (in essence) 'did I reach perfection today?' we will focus on today's line, on today's actions, words and thoughts and ask 'did I do my best to reach toward perfection today?'
We are here to reach for perfection, but we cannot be discouraged when we do not arrive before the end of a day. The Savior hasn't asked for perfection in a day, He's asked for our best efforts, and then He makes up the difference. When we judge ourselves sub-par because we didn't perform to our full potential on a given day, we judge ourselves unrighteously, and we do not allow the Savior to help us grow and fulfill His commandment in Matt 11:28-30 28 Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
I trust in the Lord (Proverbs 3:5-6) that my best is good enough for one day and that I will best myself (my natural man) with the Saviors help, into the celestial kingdom...one best day at a time.
The solution is simple: keep things in perspective. As we all know simple does not equal easy but this really is the answer. When we ask ourselves "Did I live up to my full potential today?" the answer will most likely and persistently be no. But if we ask "Did I do my best to live up to my potential today?" hopefully the answer is yes more often than not. The key is the focus of the question. The first question has a very board focus and the second a very narrow focus. If we follow the principle of line upon line learning and growing we will not ask ourselves (in essence) 'did I reach perfection today?' we will focus on today's line, on today's actions, words and thoughts and ask 'did I do my best to reach toward perfection today?'
We are here to reach for perfection, but we cannot be discouraged when we do not arrive before the end of a day. The Savior hasn't asked for perfection in a day, He's asked for our best efforts, and then He makes up the difference. When we judge ourselves sub-par because we didn't perform to our full potential on a given day, we judge ourselves unrighteously, and we do not allow the Savior to help us grow and fulfill His commandment in Matt 11:28-30 28 Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
I trust in the Lord (Proverbs 3:5-6) that my best is good enough for one day and that I will best myself (my natural man) with the Saviors help, into the celestial kingdom...one best day at a time.
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
The Art of the Mini-Date
I just went on a mini-date with my wife. I came home for lunch, ate quickly, and we took George outside to play because he is so very much in need of being outside right now. Then we sat on the front stairs in close proximity and talked while George cavorted under our somewhat watchful eyes. The sun was pleasant and warm and we were out of the wind. I enjoyed taking 30 minutes to just sit and talk and relax together. It made me realize the value of taking time in the moment. It also pointed out to me that I need to take my wife on dates during the day more often too, just for variety, and because the sun shine is so pleasant.
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